Today, the world watched in awe as Prince Harry and Meghan Markle sat down for a two-hour tell-all interview with Oprah.
The couple, who split from the monarchy in January 2020, shared explosive details about their complicated reasons for parting ways with their royal duties. The interview began with Megah and Oprah alone, as the Duchess of Sussex opened up about her naivety coming into the royal family, what it’s been like being misunderstood, bullied, and slandered in the press, her lack of protection from the palace, intense colourism she and her son, Archie, have faced, and how damaging the Firm has been to her mental health.
Harry joined about an hour in, further explaining the couple’s difficult decision, including how it impacted his relationship with his grandmother, the Queen, and his father, Prince Charles.
Here’s a full recap of all the most important moments from Harry and Meghan’s sit down interview with Oprah.
On their royal wedding
The interview starts with a montage of the royal wedding between Prince Harry and Meghan Markle.
“I think we both knew in advance this wasn’t our day. This was the day that was planned for the world,” Meghan tells Oprah of their televised royal wedding.
Meghan reveals the couple wed three days prior to their 2018 ceremony.
On becoming royal
Meghan says she went into the relationship “naively” and didn’t Google Harry or watch The Crown.
“I’ve never looked up my husband online,” she says. “I didn’t feel a need because everything I needed to know he was telling me.”
She tells Oprah that she didn’t understand what being a working royal would actually involve.
Meghan explains people misunderstand royal life, “When the perception and reality are two different things, and you’re being judged on the perception but living in the reality of it.”
On Kate Middleton and Prince William
Rumours swirled before the wedding that Meghan made Kate cry over a disagreement.
Meghan tells Oprah that the disagreement did occur—over a flower girl’s dress—but that it was actually Kate who made Meghan cry.
“A few days before the wedding she was upset about something … and it made me cry and it really hurt my feelings.”
When Oprah asked why the palace never cleared this up in the press, Meghan answers, “It’s a good question.”
Meghan says Kate has apologised and says she’s a good person.
Harry indicates his relationship with his brother, William, is strained but hopes that “time heals all.”
On the Palace as an institution
Meghan tells Oprah she was “silenced” by the palace and that everyone in her life was instructed to respond to press inquiries with “no comment.”
“It was through the lens of ‘we will protect you’,” she says. “It was only when things really started to worsen that I realised I wasn’t being protected but they were willing to lie to protect other members of the family but not me and my husband.”
Meghan says the Queen made her feel welcome, but she wasn’t allowed to leave Kensington Palace to even so much as have lunch with friends and thus became lonely.
On her son Archie
“They really seem to want a narrative of a hero and a villain,” Meghan says of how the press covered her pregnancy with Archie vs. Kate Middleton’s pregnancies.
Meghan says there were conversations about how Archie would not be given security because he would not hold the title of Prince.
“There were also concerns and conversations about how dark his skin might be when he was born.”
On her mental health
TW: Suicidal ideation.
Meghan says she contemplated suicide because of how mistreated she was.
“I was ashamed to say it at the time and ashamed to have to admit it to Harry. But I knew that if I didn’t say it – then I would do it. I just didn’t want to be alive anymore. That was clear and real and frightening and constant thought,” she tells Oprah. “I thought it would solve everything for everyone.”
She claims she went to the Palace’s HR team, and they said: “There is nothing we can do to help you because you are not a paid member of the institution.”
Harry joins the interview
Harry joins the interview and the couple reveals their second child is a girl! They also say they will not have any more children after this.
Harry says they relocated from Canada to L.A. because their security from the British government was being withdrawn as they were no longer official members of the royal family.
He claims they asked the Queen if they could stay members of the royal family but do lesser work as they were “in a lot of pain”—even suggesting they relocate to New Zealand— but were denied.
Harry on leaving his post in the royal family
When asked if he blindsided the Queen with his departure, Harry answers, “No, I have never blindsided my grandmother. I have too much respect for her.” He also reveals his father, Prince Charles, stopped taking his calls.
“What was different to me was the race element,” Harry tells Oprah of the tabloid coverage.”I am acutely aware of where my family stands and how afraid they are of [the press] turning against them.”
Harry says he feels bad for his brother and father who are “trapped.” He claims he didn’t realise how trapped he was as well until he got married.
“Can you imagine how little sense that makes… I left my career, my life … because I love him,” Meghan says as she denies manipulating Harry to leave ala Megxit.
Harry on his mother, Princess Diana
“I think she would feel very angry about how it’s turned out, but at the same time she would want us to be happy,” Harry answers when asked what Diana would think of this.
Harry says he has not received money from his family since the first half of 2020, but has some inheritance from what his mother left him.
“You asked what my mother thought of this, and I think she saw it coming.”
The interview ends with Oprah asking the couple if they have any regrets.
“No…I’m really proud of us,” Harry says. “I’m so proud of my wife. She safely delivered Archie during a period that was so cruel and so mean.”
Meghan replies that her only regret is “believing them when they said I would be protected.”
Meghan reveals that Harry was the one who “ultimately called it” and saved their family and their lives.